One day I’ll be laughing so hard I start tearing up. As those tears fall down my face, I think about how great everything is and how I couldn’t possibly be any happier.
Then the next day happens.
Now I’m fighting with someone about something that was said or something that wasn’t done. I’m thinking that things couldn’t possibly get any worse.
These switches aren’t uncommon in my life and I like to believe that I’m not the only one.
Every relationship gets off track at some point. Sometimes it is in a huge way that may end the relationship, but most of the time it is hopefully just a minor detour.
When I am in the middle of an argument, I get heated and I often forget one important thing:
“Is this fight really worth it?”
It’s important to ask because most of the time I am as upset as I am because I care so much. If I care so much, then why I am I allowing the argument to continue?
The quick answer: Pride. I don’t want to back down because that clearly means weakness (ha!).
But that type of thinking just isn’t worth it.
Every relationship and friendship has rough patches. There are times when I have felt misunderstood, unappreciated or just plain sick and tired of everything. But the greatest thing about relationships and friendships is that in the end the true friends stay right by your side through it all.
Often, I let the bad characterize how I approach my relationships. I focus on the time they said or did that one thing. Those good times with laughter, games and love go out the window because of one (or ten) bad situations. Then I am characterizing everything about that person based on the bad.
That is wrong. Everyone says things they don’t mean or does things that hurt another person. I know I do, but those actions don’t make up all of who I am and that goes for others too.
Relationships undoubtedly take a lot of work to keep strong, but it’s a struggle well worth it.
I never want to let the bad outweigh the good in any aspect of my life.